Therapy for Self-Esteem
Being hard on yourself, or self-critical, leads to some familiar patterns.
You may find that sometimes it pushes you to try harder, but often you’re left feeling disappointed, frustrated, and stressed because no matter how hard you try it never seems like enough.
Other times you may choose not to try at all and you avoid going places, trying new things, meeting new people, or moving toward your goals because you’ve already decided that you’re not good enough or you’re afraid that you will be seen as a failure.
You feel anxious a lot of the time because you are afraid of making a mistake or exposing your flaws, limitations, or vulnerability.
All in all, you feel stuck and frustrated with yourself for not being able to handle things better or move forward.
You've noticed that...
You're self-critical or beat yourself up even when you did a good job
You often feel unsure about yourself
You have difficulty making decisions
Every mistake you make seems worse than it actually is
You're sensitive to criticism and/or rejection
You have a hard time accepting compliments or praise
You feel worthless, unlovable, undeserving, like a failure, ashamed
You have difficulty with saying no or standing up for yourself
You feel guilty on a regular basis, apologizing excessively, or taking responsibility for things that aren't really your fault
It's time to get help with your self-esteem. You've come to the right place.
I specialize in self-esteem improvement and self-confidence building.
With support and commitment you can change your views of yourself and start to feel more confident. It starts with building self-awareness by noticing when your self-critical thoughts are showing up and then building self-compassion so you can start being more kind to yourself.
I can teach strategies to help you slow down and observe your thoughts and feelings about yourself when they arise so you can begin to put things into a new perspective rather than being overwhelmed by self-criticism and self-doubt.
I can also help you develop strategies for taking a break from self-criticism and offering yourself soothing and compassion to help break old patterns that keep you stuck feeling unworthy or insecure.
I focus in on your strengths and your capabilities and point them out, not just to be your cheerleader, but to offer a different way of viewing yourself.
I also help you to better understand your personal needs and to find new ways to meet your needs and to cope with difficulties when they arise.
With this guidance and support, you can start to feel more capable and empowered and begin to recognize your own potential.
Get Connected with a Self-Esteem Therapist in Oakland, CA
Melanie Lopes, MFT
I’ve found that this kind of counseling and therapy is effective and can bring about incredible results: it can improve the way you feel about yourself, reduce anxiety and depression, improve your confidence, improve your outlook, improve relationships, and in turn, improve the quality of your life.
If you are ready to start feeling more confident and improve your self-esteem, you can get started by clicking the button below. I look forward to talking with you.