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  • Melanie Lopes, MFT

Everything You Need To Feel More Confident About Making a Big Life Change

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Whether you’re considering leaving a job, ending a relationship, improving your health, or breaking an old habit, making a life change can be daunting. It’s normal to feel scared and uncertain about the future, but if you want to achieve your goals, you need to find the courage to take the first step. So how do you find the courage to make a change when you’re not 100% sure that it’s the right move? How do you find the confidence to follow your dreams? In this post you’ll find 10 best tips for how to feel more confident about making a big change in your life.

What’s Stopping You From Making A Change?

Fear is one of the biggest factors that prevents people from making a big life change. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, and fear of making the wrong choice can all hold you back from taking action.

Another common obstacle that can prevent you from making a life change is a lack of self-confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself, it will be difficult to take the necessary steps to achieve your goals. But there are things you can do to build self-confidence and become more comfortable with taking risks.

It takes courage, confidence, and trust to make big changes – the courage to take a risk, the confidence in your ability to make the change happen and deal with the results, and trust that it will all work out, somehow, some way.

If you’re feeling unsure and on the fence about taking that next step, here are some helpful tips to help you move forward with confidence.

10 Best Tips to Feel More Confident About Making a Big Life Change

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1. Set Your Intention

Set an intention for how you want to navigate this change. In other words, how do you want to show up? Who do you want to be? What strengths do you want to draw upon as you make this change? For example, your intention may be to be patient or be persistent or be true to yourself. Your intention can help give you direction and guide your actions through the process of change, particularly during times when self-doubt, fear, and uncertainty start to creep in.

2. Consider The Consequences

When you’re considering making a big life change, it can help to look at the potential consequences. How will this change impact your life? What are the risks and potential rewards? Create a pros and cons list and include the pros and cons of taking action AND the pros and cons of not taking action. The more information you have, the more confident you’ll feel about moving forward.

3. Troubleshoot In Advance

Do what you can to prepare yourself for potential obstacles or challenges. What will help you navigate these challenges? Who can you turn to for support? What would you need to know or what might you need to do? This helps you see that you can find a way through even the worst case scenarios and can help you feel more confident in your ability to deal with whatever impacts come with the change.

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4. Talk to People Who Have Made Similar Changes

If you know someone who has made a similar change, reach out to them for advice. Hearing first-hand accounts from people who have been in your shoes can help you feel more confident about making a life change.

5. Make a Plan

A plan will help you feel more confident about taking action. When you know what steps you need to take and have a timeline for taking them, it’s easier to move forward. Breaking down your goal into smaller, manageable pieces will make the process less overwhelming.

6. Take Baby Steps

You don’t have to make a life-altering change all at once. Start small and build up to the big stuff. Taking baby steps will help you feel less scared and more confident about making changes.

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7. Imagine It

Imagine what the change would look like with as much attention to detail as possible, including what it would feel like once you’ve met your goals. Play through the experience in your mind and really notice how it feels. This can help serve as motivation and also gets you in the mindset for moving towards change.

8. Be Patient

Making a life change can take time. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen overnight. The important thing is that you’re taking action and moving in the right direction. Be sure to acknowledge the steps you have taken, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. Trust that the process will unfold in its own time.

9. Reward Yourself

As you accomplish each small goal, give yourself a reward. This will help you stay motivated and feel good about the progress you’re making.

10. Use Affirmations

Repeat positive statements to yourself that offer you encouragement and remind you of your strengths and capabilities. If this is difficult for you, start by making a list of other times when you overcame your fears or when you took a risk and were able to move through a challenge. This can help build confidence and motivation.


Making a major life change is rarely easy, but it’s often worth it. By following these tips, you can start to build the confidence you need to make a change. You might not feel 100% confident right away – it can take time to change your situation and your outlook. Just remember to take it one step at a time and by following these tips you can feel good about yourself and your decision without looking back with regret.

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